6 Dementia Related Communication Do's and Don'ts

Tip #1: Use Simple Language

• Don't Say: "Would you like to go out for a stroll in the garden to get some fresh air and sunshine?"
• Do Say: "Do you want to walk in the garden?"
• Why: Simple language reduces confusion and is easier to understand and respond to.

Tip #2: Be Positive and Reassure

• Don't Say: "Don't you remember? We've talked about this before."
• Do Say: "It's perfectly okay if you don't remember. Let's talk about it again."
• Why: Reassurance reduces anxiety and makes your loved one feel more comfortable.

Tip #3: Support Independence to Enable Autonomy

• Don't Say: "Let me do it for you."
• Do Say: "Would you like some help with that task? I can assist you with the tricky parts, and you can still do the rest."
• Why: Supporting autonomy helps maintain their sense of self-worth.

Tip #4: Avoid Arguing, Redirect, and Refocus on the Present

• Don't Say: "That's not true."
• Do Say: "I understand you feel strongly about that. However, let's focus on our plans for today. What would you like to do first?"
• Why: Arguing causes distress and confusion. Redirecting and refocusing on the present helps maintain a calm and positive atmosphere.

Tip #5: Be Patient and Stay Calm

• Don't Say: "Hurry up" or "Calm down."
• Do Say: "Take your time; we're not in a rush. Let's take a deep breath together and focus on the task at hand."
• Why: Rushing or scolding increases anxiety. Being patient and calm reduces stress and promotes a supportive environment.

Tip #6: Emphasize Joy and Connection

• Don't Say: "You're losing your memory."
• Do Say: "I love looking at old photos with you. Remember that trip we took to the beach? You were so brave trying new things."
• Why: Focusing on loss erodes self-esteem. Emphasizing joyful memories and connections fosters a positive environment.

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