Navigating Personal Cares for Seniors

Taking care of an aging loved one isn't easy. Simple things like getting dressed, showering, or even combing their hair can become difficult for them to do on their own. It's normal to feel stressed, upset, or even sad by these changes as you try to figure out the best way to help them, without affecting your relationship or taking away their independence. But safety is a common concern families have about their aging loved ones, especially in the bathroom, where 80% of falls among seniors occur. It is hard for them to admit they need help with personal stuff like bathing or using the toilet. Even when they do, it can be an awkward shift in roles for everyone involved. 

Understanding the Challenge

It's hard to lose your independence. Think about how it must feel to admit you need help with simple things like showering or combing your hair. It can be really hard for our elders to rely on others for these personal care tasks, especially if they're used to doing everything on their own. Maybe they don't have the dexterity, or they're becoming increasingly unsteady on their feet. Their safety needs to be the top priority.  

Taking care of someone, especially a parent, can be physically and emotionally draining. It's normal to feel overwhelmed and even frustrated at times. But, if you have chosen to take on the role of caregiver, there are ways to make this transition easier and less stressful for both of you.

Creating a Comfort Zone

Making your loved one feel safe and comfortable at home is extremely important, especially in the bathroom. Start with small changes to the environment such as ensuring their is sufficient lighting, installing grab bars next to the toilet and shower, and adding non-slip flooring to prevent accidents and ease concerns about falling. Privacy is also very important. Be sure to keep the door closed and use privacy curtains or towels for modesty when appropriate. These small things can go a long way in making your loved one feel comfortable.

If bathing becomes a challenge, consider the options of sponge baths or installing a shower chair. There are many products out there that make getting in and out of the shower easier and less risky for aging loved ones. 

Communicating with Respect

Open and honest communication is extremely important in any caregiving relationship. Talk to the person you are caring for about their preferences and concerns when it comes to assisting them with personal cares like bathing, dressing and toileting. This open dialogue can help you both feel more comfortable and build trust. Here are a few tips to get you started when assisting someone with bathing tasks:

• Person-centered care.  Treat them like the person they are rather on what they can't do for themselves or on their illness.
• Listen. Pay attention to their verbal and nonverbal cues. Let them know you are truly listening. 
• Be gentle. Always ask for permission before touching someone and be aware of their personal space.
• Be patient. Everyone is different with unique needs, go at their pace, not yours. 

Break Down the Tasks

Sometimes the hardest part of caregiving is just figuring out where to start. Breaking down larger tasks into smaller ones can make things feel less overwhelming for both of you. For example, when providing assistance with bathing: 

• Start with the face. It's usually the easiest place to start, and it helps build trust between the two of you. 
• Work from the cleanest areas to those that need more attention. This helps keep things clean and prevent the spread of germs. 
• Provide distractions. Try playing soft music and talk to them so they can relax and feel at ease. 

The Role of Professional Caregivers

Caring for an aging parent or loved one can be challenging. If you're finding it to be too difficult or causing unnecessary friction or stress, you don't have to do this alone. Professional home care agencies, like Visiting Angels, are here to help. 

Our caregivers are compassionate and experienced professionals who are available to assist with bathing, dressing, toileting and other personal tasks. They will treat your loved one with the kindness and respect that they deserve while ensuring they feel comfortable. It also gives family members a much needed break from caregiving, which allows you to then spend more quality time enjoying the company of your loved one. 

Visiting Angels West Metro understands how challenging these times of transition can be for families.  If you are interested in learning more about how our services can help you and your loved one, we're here for you. Our St. Louis Park office serves clients in Minneapolis, Edina, Hopkins, Golden Valley, St. Louis Park, Brooklyn Park and surrounding communities. We also have offices in Wayzata and Chaska that serve the entire west and southwest metro area of the Twin Cities. Give us a call today at 952-935-0789 or reach us with our online form.